Dear Aanya,

Just finished reading this book “A Promise to Ourselves” by Alec Baldwin (https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0312363362) on Divorce and Chid Custody.

Amazing that this celebrity actor faced the brunt of the noxious Los Angeles County Family Law System, and felt strongly enough about it that he wrote a book on it.

After reading in this book, I’m even more worried that there’s very little chance that I can maintain even a modicum of relationship with you.

He’s putting words on what actually goes on in a contested child custody battle, it is very reflective of what happened with me, and it is very bad, and downright evil.

Dear Aanya,

At some point of time as you grow older, you may become curious about the history of your parents, about how they lived, and about what led to your losing your Dad (not yet happened as of today March 29th 2017, but increasingly likely scenario in very near future).

In the Response I filed in Los Angeles Superior Court in the first week of 2016, in response to your Mom’s request for granting to her 100% of your legal custody, I included a chronology of the events leading up to that court hearing. This chronology rattled your Mom for the following weekend, and she was visibly nervous, which was not surprising because of its factual accuracy, more so since she by this time had everything going for her by virtue of lies, deception, fabrications and covert harassment. She recovered quickly though within a week or so, presumably SAHARA support working to ensure that. Here is that chronology to give you a brief background on what had transpired during those 12 years.

CHRONOLOGY OF THIS CASE

2003 Summer
– Petitioner and Respondent get married.
2005 Spring
– Respondent moves to Los Angeles to work.
2005 Summer
– Petitioner moves to Los Angeles to join Respondent.
2008 Spring
– Respondent moves out of common home because of persistent discord with the Petitioner.
2008 Summer
– Petitioner comes in contact with an organization called Sahara (http://saharacares.org, formerly http://saharaorg.org – they changed their website address within a few weeks of my filing this document in court), which helps south asian women in distress.
2008 Autumn
– The Respondent starts getting harassed by the agents hired by the above mentioned organization.
2008 Winter
– Because of escalating harassment, the Respondent is severely disoriented, unable to hold on to jobs, is on the verge of committing suicide.
2009 Spring
– The Respondent contacts the Petitioner to resolve a query regarding the Petitioner’s green card, which was filed by the Respondent’s employer. 2009 Summer – The Respondent and the Petitioner agree to live together again. The harassment immediately stops.

2009 Autumn
– The Petitioner insists that the Respondent take medication because the two are arguing frequently. Although the Respondent is not suffering from any ailment, in order to keep peace in the family, and also because the Respondent is wary of the horrific harassment which ended short while ago.
2011 Summer
– Aanya is born.
2013 Summer
– Petitioner starts frequently complaining that Aanya is always clinging to the Respondent and is Dad’s daughter.
2013 Autumn
– Petitioner stridently starts bemoaning that the Respondent does not drop off Aanya at 9 am at her pre-school, and is not strict enough with her in issues like her sleeping time and play time.
2014 Spring
– Petitioner and Respondent try to resolve their differences by meeting with Sahara officials Sheela Mehta and Parul Patel. Sheela Mehta warns the Respondent that if he doesn’t drop off Aanya at her pre-school promptly at 9 am, the Child Protective Services would jail him, and he would lose his child forever, all the while encouraging the Petitioner to file for divorce citing that 4 out of 7 marriages in California end up in divorce.
2014 August
– The Petitioner files for Divorce.
2015 May
– The Court grants divorce, 50% Joint Legal and 50% Joint Physical custody to each of the Petitioner and Respondent, and awards Guideline Child Support to Petitioner.
2015 Early August
– The Petitioner demands from the Respondent pay her additional $500 per month, over and above the Child Support he was continuing to pay, although his contract job had ended over a month ago, and he was searching for a new job. The Respondent refuses to cave in to the Petitioner’s exorbitant demands.
2015 Late August
– The Respondent starts getting harassed again, such that he cannot live in peace in his own apartment.
2015 October
– Respondent starts a new job. The harassment continues. Petitioner repeatedly threatens to further reduce the Respondent’s visitation with Aanya, even though he is already spending lesser time with Aanya, than ordered by the Court, because of the performance pressure in his new job, which is not atypical of his profession in the field of Information Technology.

2016 January 18th
– The Respondent is fed up of the continued, and escalating harassment, and goes to the LAPD Police Station at 12312 Culver Blvd, Los Angeles. A lady, who calls herself Sandy, arrives after an hour or so, and in what appears to be a pre-meditated action, lacking any rational justification whatsoever, based primarily on the Petitioner’s false allegations, orders the Respondent to be forcibly contained in a psychiatric facility.
2016 January 27th
– The Petitioner contacts Respondent and offers to do an agreement regarding Respondent’s visitation with Aanya. The Petitioner and her attorney Lola McAlpin Grant warn the Respondent that the visitation time they are offering (Saturday and Sunday 10 am to 6 pm) is much more generous than the Respondent can hope to save at this time, following the above mentioned hospitalization a few days ago. Under pressure, the Respondent signs the agreement, but is torn because of his love for his daughter, and the potential loss of capacity to support Aanya in her growing years.
2016 Early February
– The Respondent, devastated by the recent turn of events, coupled with his mother’s failing health back in his home country India, travels to India. 2016 Summer – The Petitioner files for sole legal and physical custody of Aanya. The Respondent, although just recovering from the shocking and devastating events of a few months ago, cannot bear to have his contact with 5-year old Aanya severed forever, returns to Los Angeles, in spite of his own Mom’s continued terminal illness, and attends Court Ordered Mediation on July 25th 2016. The Mediation ends without an agreement, since the Petitioner insists on cutting down the Respondent’s visitation time with Aanya to one weekend day per week, implying reduction by another 50%.

Dear Aanya,

You may be curious about what caused your Dad, from being a highly experienced Software Developer, earning close to $100k per year on average between 2005 and 2015, to, by 2017, become practically homeless.

It was the carefully orchestrated, highly professional, Covert Harassment instigated by SAHARA (http://www.saharacares.org, formerly http://www.saharaorg.org), on behalf of your incredible idiot of a Mom (sorry, but I will hold on to my opinion on that).

Some description of the kind of constant harassment I have been subject to, since August 2015, can be found at these sites:
COINTELPRO News (2016 – 2018)
http://freedomfchs.startlogic.com/
https://www.covertharassmentconference.com/

It’s a multi-level harassment, some of the elements being:
1) Repeated noises in the apartment, facilitated by motion sensor devices, to make it clear to me that the intention is to track, pester and harass.
2) Different forms of energy devices (some of them likely to be EMF based, some of them could be other forms of energy, like ultrasound or infrasound), which work across the flimsy apartment building walls, designed to cause:
A) sleep deprivation
B) weakening of body muscles leading to loss of strength in body and limbs
C) wooziness lasting several hours, which disables capacity to think and perform work
D) nervousness leading to awkward social interactions thereby further limiting social contact and increasing isolation
E) Persistent High Heart Rate over 120 leading to accelerated wear tear of essential body systems.
F) etc.

It’s difficult for anybody to fathom the depth of horrors this constitutes on a constant continuous every-moment-of-the-day basis, unless one experienced it first-hand.

That your Mom intentionally, and quite well aware of some of these horrors (because I myself described them to her, and begged her to have them stopped multiple times), chose to continue to inflict them on your Dad, who she knows deeply adores you, is the reason I hold on to an extremely dim view of her intelligence, moral character and mental well-being.

At some point, this deep rooted sickness in your Mom, will conflict with your need to grow your personality and be independent and assertive. It might help you to know at that time that you are not imagining or manufacturing this, or that it’s a flaw in you that is causing you to perceive it as this in your Mom, as she would inevitably claim, but I have born the brunt of this as well, and have dearly paid for this with the loss of my health, loss of opportunity to support and protect you, and potentially with the loss of my life.

Yours forever,
-Dad